Happy New Year!

We’re a week into 2019 and no doubt, you’ve got some things on your list. Whether it’s via resolutions or choosing your one word for the year - we all get excited by that blank canvas, that clean notebook - and we declare something new that we’ll take on with the fresh start of the new year.

But how often do you end up with a pile of disappointments and broken resolutions by mid-February? Most people do. Why? Because there’s a huge difference between wanting change to happen and wanting to make change happen. In other words, change is a process (sometimes a long one) and as humans, we tend to want immediate gratification. Change and immediate gratification don’t go together like spaghetti and meatballs or peanut butter and jelly. You know what I mean? So while we usually want the outcome of the change - the lost weight, the health we gain from exercising more or quitting smoking, the relationship with our kids from being more present, the book we’ve been meaning to write…you get the picture - while we want those outcomes, we have trouble committing to the actual process and the work it’s going to take to get there.

Sorry if I just burst your new year’s bubble. But don’t worry - I’m gonna blow it back up again.

I want to challenge you to take on something else this year to support those new year’s goals. Because here’s the thing we forget when we take them on - it’s kinda hard to say hell yes! to something new without saying a big fat hell no! to something else.

So, let’s say I want to be more present when I’m with my kids in the late afternoon until they go to bed. I want to play games with them, read with them, have them help me with dinner and just hang out more. I know I better start saying NO to my phone from 4:30-8:30. Will this be easy? Nope. I’ll have to silence my phone and put it in another room. Because even if it’s silent, I know that I’m aware of it and tempted to check it when it’s in the same room as me.

The NO is the part that so many people miss - but it’s SUCH an important part of what actually makes the goals we set achievable. Without the NO, there’s not a lot of awareness around what is and isn’t working in your current day to day. You know you want something different - but in order to get there, what you’re NOT going to do is just as important - or dare I say, even MORE important - than the things you’re going to do.

So - how can I help you to make 2019 the year you stop talking about what you want and actually get what you want? Shoot me an email and let me know: What’s your HELL NO! for 2019? And if you’re at that place of “I want it to be no but it seems impossible…” let me know that too so that I can support you in getting there. And while you’re at it, let me know what your HELL YES! is as well. I’d love to hear from you.

And, of course, Happy New Year. I have a feeling 2019 is going to be full of possibility for you.